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  1. I myself have had 3 c-sections. The first one was an emergency, the second was a last 2 month of pregnancy scenario and my third was planned. I was so upset because I wanted to experience a natural birth. It took me a long time to get over the fact that I didn’t. I was so nervous for all of them! I wish I could have been calm enough to do my hair and makeup lol… then I would probably have more pictures lol

  2. Shannon Cairns

    Lol! It’s definitely a hard thing to get over. I still wonder what i might be missing out on!

  3. Melissa

    Had a section with my first and while I don’t have Mom guilt I was and still am pissed about the scenario because of the drs. And people justifying it because baby was alive. So nothing else mattered. I hit magic 42 (per them) but baby just needed a little extra time. (Ended up not being quite 40 weeks yet) I had a horrible recovery and the pain lasted for 3.5 yrs until I had my second ?. Biggest recommendation REST rest and more rest. Even if it seems like you’re not doing anything. (Baby is a lot right ) That time afterwards is so critical to healing.

  4. Shannon Cairns

    Ugh! I’m sorry you had such a bad experience! Yeah I have the worst time trying to rest! I feel like I need to be up and doing things around the house right away but rest is SOOOOO important!

  5. Kristyn

    You go girl!! I also had an unplanned c-section. Having a natural birth is something I have always wanted. I guess I felt it would make me feel accomplished. But everyone knows when you make plans, God laughs. We had a scary situation during delivery and weren’t making progress delivery vaginally. At that point, I just wanted a safe baby and giving the go ahead for the c-section was a “no-brainer.” The stress of the situation and the amount of fear I felt makes me never want to be in that situation again. Even though I still long for a vaginally delivery, I do not want to relive that scenario and if we are blessed with another baby I will have a planned c-section. I too was upset about having a c-section but was more grateful my baby was safe. I think that helped with coming to terms with my delivery. After all every mom just wants a healthy baby.

    I bought a postpartum wrap off Amazon and had brought it with me. My nurses were stoked I had one. Life changing!! Best decision ever! The additional support helped my recovery a lot. I also feel it shortened my recovery time.

    I’m glad you shared your story. At the end of the day, giving birth (no matter how) is a miracle and women should never have to feel it is anything less!!

  6. Marissa

    It’s so hard not to beat yourself up about it. I’ve had a cesarean as well due to a breech baby. Having had a vaginal birth before, I was very disappointed since I knew what I was missing. I over-compensated and dove straight into attachment parenting. I regret that.

  7. Shannon Cairns

    Thanks for sharing your story too! Yes, healthy baby is the goal!! You are so right!

  8. Yes to all of this! I had 2 c-sections (the first an emergency c-section and the 2nd for breech). It is so important to appreciate the work our bodies have done and be grateful for that. It is not easy and moms need more positivity. Thank you for this beautiful piece and for sharing your story with us!

  9. Shannon Cairns

    Yes I totally agree! It’s so great to get to hear everyone’s stories! I love that about blogging!

  10. Great article!!! I definitely struggled with guilt and sooo many emotions following my csections, but finally worked through it, knowing I did the best thing for my babies… Must haves — agree with the girdle and nursing pillow!!! Also, GOTTA have stool softeners, for the lovely side effect of pain meds! Lol

  11. Kerri Barnette

    Your blog is beautiful.

    I suffered from a lot of mom guilt after my c-section, and still do I think! I tried so hard to deliver naturally (you of course remember this, Shannon! ?). I imagined the perfect delivery, and I pushed for 4 hours. Eventually, I had to have a c-section because my son’s head is giant. ? And sometimes I still feel bad about it. I feel like I should have done better or kept trying.

    But you’re right. There’s nothing wrong with having a c-section. It hasn’t made me less of a mother.

    Thank you for the beautiful blog!

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